From what I know of my ancestors, it seems that several of them chose to pursue a way of life of which their families and friends didn't approve or even understand.
If we could change things, would we alter the feelings of their disapproving loved ones? Would we make them understand how good the decisions actually were? Would we give them visions of future generations, sure that it would change their minds?
Afterall, we believe, our pioneering forebears were right. But is it really only okay for the right ones to feel and act the way they do, and not for the wrong ones?
Or, would we leave things as they happened. Trusting that it's for the best for individuals to make their own choices, in the face of antagonistic pressures (on both sides)? Builds character, of course. And anyway, making everyone feel the "right" way about everything is impossible and against God's plan. But how can we reconcile ourselves to conflicting opinions, and leave it to God to sort out the actual rights and wrongs?
Hmmmm. Seems complicated.
Not surprisingly, the differing opinions didn't coexist very well back then. My ancestors bravely persisted in their own beliefs, but ultimately distanced themselves from those who disagreed. They developed instead closer associations with those of their same chosen way of life. In many cases, this meant moving to a new home in a foreign land. The sacrifice of loving relationships and familiar comforts.
Is there another way?
Interesting that our doctrine teaches a pattern (mortal and eternal) of grouping people according to their desires.
I believe that happiness is desireable. But I also believe that ultimately, personal integrity and choice are more important. Which is why I am grateful God won't condemn anyone to a fate other than the one they choose for themselves - even if it means denying them a level of happiness.
That's what I think, anyway.